Second Parenting: How to Mother Yourself (Even If You’ve Never Been Taught How)

Let’s talk about something I don’t think we talk about enough — the idea that we get a second chance at parenting.

No, not parenting our kids (though, that too).I mean parenting ourselves.

Maybe you’ve heard it called re-mothering, inner parenting, or self-nurturing.

I call it Second Parenting. Because it really is a whole second chance.

So many of us didn’t get the kind of mothering we needed.Even if we had “good” moms.Even if we’re now amazing caregivers for others.

We didn’t get the softness. Or the steadiness.Or the boundaries. Or the you’re safe now, baby — rest.

And now, we’re left holding a hundred roles — worker, partner, friend, mother, leader — while trying to carry our own unmet needs at the same time.

So what do we do?

We learn to become the mother we always needed.

And no, this isn’t fluffy bubble bath self-care (though, hey — light that candle).This is about something deeper. Something sacred.

Second Parenting means:

• soothing yourself when the world feels too loud,

• fiercely protecting your time and energy,

• motivating yourself without shame,

• and holding your own heart with tenderness when it breaks.

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Four Inner Mother Archetypes I teach in my workshops:

💛 The Nurturer — soft, warm, soothing.

🛡️ The Protector — fierce, boundaries, strong.

🔥 The Activator — encouraging, bold, believes in you.

🌊 The Witness — present, spacious, nonjudgmental.

You can call on any of these energies at any time.You don’t have to wait until you’re drowning to mother yourself.

An invitation for you:

Next time you’re spiralling, pushing through, or just quietly numb —pause.

Place your hand over your heart. And ask;

“What would a loving mother say to me right now?”

You might be surprised by what comes up.

You don’t need to figure this all out alone.If you’re longing to feel steadier, more supported, and finally held — by yourself and by someone who gets it — I want to invite you to book a free call with me.

We'll talk about what Second Parenting could look like for you — in real life, with real boundaries, and a whole lot of compassion.

👉 Book your free call here Because the version of you that’s still waiting to be mothered?

She deserves your attention now.

Olga